If you can't be with the one you love...Love the one you're with

I might be dating myself with this quote. I remember hearing this quote recited by my mother, my mother's girlfriends, my grandmother, aunts and my female cousins, etc. Their interpretation and my understanding of this quote meant if we didn't find a man/mate what we loved, settle for the one who loved us. The notion of settling, never settled well with me. I've now put my own little spin on this quote. Tell me what you think of it. "If you can't be with the one you love...love the one you're with - You. That's right...Love yourself. Once we learn to truly and authentically love ourselves with all of our swag, sway of our hips and fullness of our lips, our isms, quirks, imperfections and flaws and those nagging recurring body issues,trust and believe our mate is soon to follow.

Yesterday- January 30th, 2011, was another life changing moment for me. No..it was more than a moment. It was monumental. It was yummy and delicious in all of it's monumentalness. Yes, I know that's not a word; however, I sometimes like to take my own liberties with words. Yesterday, I had the great pleasure of meeting, having and exchange of ideas, networking, laughing, catching up, reminiscing and performing body work on some of the most incredible, kind-hearted, loving, emotionally available and sincere women I think I've ever met. Being a body work specialist (Massage therapist) affords me the opportunity to have a direct exchange of energies with people of varied ethnicity's, backgrounds, socio-economic status, fitness levels and religious beliefs. These are the type of women who are drawn to MaKresha's monthly Journey Spa parties. These were women, in spite of their finances, transportation, fitness levels, the mental space they were in or obstacles happening in their lives,showed up and showed out. They were present from the time they arrived until the time they left. Collectively and individually,we shared our pain, struggles that we face daily being the amazing women of color, being mothers, some of us single mothers to children with real life challenges, entrepreneurs,wives, sisters and daughters. We learned that everything WE need in life, we already have and already are. Additionally, we examined our needs, wants and desires, whether it was in a group setting or in an intimate conversation between a massage therapist and her sistah in the spirit.

I believe each and every one of us took away the need to continue and/or start to Love ourselves at the very core of our being. And in loving ourselves, that means NOT waiting for someone to treat us well. This means treating ourselves to that much needed manicure and pedicure. This means getting our hair done, spending time with those we love and enjoy, buying ourselves that dress or pair of shoes you soo earnestly deserve, to honoring your body by taking care of the ONLY one that has soo lovingly been given you.

My motto is: "get it Right and Keep it Tight." get your mind right in order to keep your body Tight.

I want to hear how you are planning on loving and pampering yourselves even more in 2011.

Fee King
Your Fitness go-To-girl
www.uniquefeesiquesla.com